three years

12 Sep

Maybe my favorite class for my Masters was in the Law School: “Marriage, Culture, and the Imagination.”  My final paper argued something regarding the creation of marriage as a means for society to have some control over how we conceive and raise children.  Needless to say, I came away from the class with very conflicted feelings about the idea of marriage.

I still don’t have a true understanding of the institution; I doubt I ever will.  I never felt as though I chose to “get married”; I felt like I chose to be married to John–if that makes sense.  It felt right and good.  I wish that after three years I would have something a little more weighty to say, but the concept of marriage is still ethereal to me.

What I can say is that I love my husband, I love my marriage, truly, a little more each day.  Although we lived together beforehand, and had already loved each other through sickness, struggle, and massive amounts of debt, being married changed our relationship.  It’s a slip of paper, a written and verbal agreement in front of our family and friends, a recognition by the state of Virginia…a promise that we are partners, family to each other before any and all others.  And it makes a difference.

John, happy three years!  I have loved every minute.

Photos by the overwhelmingly talented and fabulously hilarious Julie Napear, taken during our engagement, at our wedding, and at the recent wedding of close friends/family.

One year and two years.


5 Responses to “three years”

  1. September 12, 2012 at 9:12 am #


    Really …… “Cheers !!!”

    All the best for your anniversary. A very fast three years.

    We could not be any more happy for you and John.


  2. phantomdiver September 12, 2012 at 9:55 am #

    Congratulations! May you always be as committed to each other as you have been over the last three years!

    On another note, my granddaughter Charlotte Ann was born this morning. I’m happy that she has your anniversary as your birthday! She’s the child of my older son and his wife; you don’t know them. He’s two years older than Meg and didn’t go to TJ. (You don’t know anybody who didn’t go to TJ, right? Of course right.)

    • annaojesus September 13, 2012 at 10:49 pm #

      Thank you very much and HUGE congratulations on your newest granddaughter!!! So, SO happy for you all!


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